Parents of Preemies Day

I came across this facebook page today: Parents of Preemies Day. March 23rd they will be devoting that day to celebrating lives of preemie and their parents. If you like to share your story, please go to their wall for information.

I think it is pretty neat that they will be having this day, but I also appreciate their posting about about 10 things to say to a Parent of Preemie and 10 things you can do:


A community of parents of preemies has compiled a list of simple acts of kindness and helpful words that you can share that are of great help to them while they are in the hospital and transition home with their baby. 

10 Things to Say to the Parents of Preemies 

1.      Congratulations! Your baby is beautiful! 

2.      You’re stronger than you know, and your baby is strong like you. 

3.      If you’d like someone to be there with you in the NICU, I’d be happy to just sit with you. 

4.      Can I see a picture? 

5.      When can I come and visit him/her? 

6.      After this experience, your bond with your baby is going to be so strong. 

7.      Prematurity is not your fault and it’s really unfair. 

8.      What can I do during cold and flu season to keep your family safe? 

9.      Cry if you need to; I can be strong for you when you need to take a break. 

10.  You’re a great mom! / You’re a great dad! 

 10 Things to Do for the Parents of Preemies 

1.      Go food shopping and then cook and freeze a couple (or a lot) of meals that are easy to reheat. 

2.      Look after a preemie parent’s other children so she or he can spend that much more time in the NICU. 

3.      Visit the new parents and their preemie as soon as the time is right – and focus on the baby, not the equipment. 

4.      Reschedule a NICU or home visit when you know you’ve been exposed to germs but aren’t feeling sick (especially during flu and RSV season). 

5.      Help them get to and from the hospital when transportation is an issue. 

6.      Walk the dog, feed the cat, mow the lawn… anything that gives a preemie parent less to do at home. 

7.      Just listen. Parents of premature babies may have thoughts or feelings you don’t understand; you don’t have to ‘get it’. 

8.      Give a gift their baby can use right now – premature babies who aren’t ready for clothes can often wear specially sized hats. 

9.      Be understanding when the mom or dad of a preemie doesn’t have a lot of time for you, even if you’ve been missing them for weeks or months. 

10.  Request a Graham’s Foundation NICU care package on their behalf by visiting the Graham’s Foundation website

If you choose to take on one of our suggestions, we encourage you to share your act of kindness or helpful words on our Parents of Preemies Day Facebook Page so we can add it to our Hope, Resilience  & Miracles banner that will be unveiled on Parents of Preemies Day.



Last night as I was putting my daughter to bed, we had this conversation:

Me: You know what Kaylen? Do you know who loves you? Mommy loves you. Do you know who else loves you?

Kaylen: Jesus loves me.

Me: Yes, that’s right. Do you know who else loves you?

Kaylen: People love me!!! (very excitedly)

Me: Yes, there are lots of people that love you. (giggle from me). Do you know who else loves you? (Kaylen says hmm?) Oma and Opa love you.

Kaylen: Opa… Opa and Oma went to the airport.

Me: Yes, that’s right, Kaylen. They went to the airport to get on plane to go home to Massachusetts.They love you very much. Do you know who else loves you? Papa and Nana. They love you very much. (Kaylen is listening intently this whole time).  Who know who else loves you?

Kaylen: My Pousin (that’s cousin).

Me: Yes, your COUsin, JC, and your Auntie Debra. Do you remember them? Remember, when JC was here, and you were playing with him?

Kaylen: Yes. They went on airplane.

Me: Yes, they went on an airplane to go home to Las Vegas.

My heart saddens at this point. I continue to go down the list with her Uncle Art, Aunt Mandi, and Uncle Anthony. It just saddens me that we live far away from our family and that my daughter is associating our families with airplanes and airport. It is the truth though. I’m not about to jump ship from Utah or anything, but I wish that we had family closer. My mom will be visiting soon, so I’m guessing will be adding the comment about Nana going to the airport. I’m happy that my children as so love and I know even through the distance, they know they are loved.