Just a thought..

A while ago, I saw a posting talking about how seasons change in lives and friends come and go in your life for different reasons. I think that is just a bunch of bologna that we tell ourselves to make ourselves feel better at the lost of a friend. I lost a friend who was once near and dear to my heart and I remember people saying that sometimes we are just friends with people to teach them something or they have something to teach us. I’m not buying into that. Yes, there are things that we learn from our friends, but I think true friends remain friends throughout the ages and seasons for that matter. A true friend knows when you have responsibilities pulling you elsewhere in your life so that may not be as availble as you once were. To say we are just friends with someone while one party or both parties are gaining something and then to call it quits when someone has decided they aren’t gaining anything is just a bunch of crap – that’s not a true friend. You know when you have a real friend on your hand when you can go a timespan without talking and know that friend still loves you the same and you can pick up like you never dropped off. Anyways.. just my two cent thought for this week.

Adding this 08/12/10 – After reflecting on this post for the past day. I realized why I was so bothered by the statements I read about being friends for just seasons. It was what my “dear” friend told me when I had to end our friendship. Yes, I ended the friendship. Some friendships must end and it’s not out of what is benfitting one or not. It wasn’t seasons changing that caused me to end the friendship, but it was me realizing that I was better than being used as a door mat when someone needed to wipe their feet.



good friendsI am thankful for good friends. The kind you know you can spill your heart out to and you know that they will just get you. It makes my heart sing and my soul joyful to know there is someone out there that can relate to me. God did truly create us to be in relationship with one another. Out all of my years on this earth so far, I believe that in my heart and soul. We weren’t meant to do this life alone. We were meant to be together and support one another. So, I never believe it when people say they prefer to be alone and they just aren’t the “relationship” type. We all want to be loved for who we are. Just some of us unfortunately have been so badly hurt and burned that we are afraid to let others into that special part of our hearts… because it would probably be life-heart shattering if we let someone hurt us again. So, I always try to remember that. When I feel there there are very negative and emotionally shut off people around me, that beneath all of the tough exteriors, they really are just dying for someone to “get” them and love them for who they are.. including all the dark spots. So thank you to all of you who truly love me as a friend 🙂